Revenge keeps a conflict going, putting at risk future generations. Interethnic violence in Rwanda started small in the late 1950s, but because Rwandans responded to violence with violence, the conflict escalated over time, leading to genocide, war crimes, and crimes against humanity. Martin Luther King, Jr., understood the wickedness of violence. He said that the ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, causing the very thing it seeks to destroy. Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it. That was an excerpt of my speech at Bucknell University on January 18, 2017, in celebration of Martin Luther King Day. In my talk, I shared my story of extraordinary loss in the 1994 genocide in Rwanda, and my efforts to overcome the “trauma” from that loss, using forgiveness and reconciliation.